This goes out to all my sisters in Christ whose hearts have been broken by some punk who doesn’t have any idea how to treat a lady. 

You want to be in a relationship. I get that. You want to have a guy that takes you out, calls you up and texts you 47 times an hour. I understand. The heart of the matter is that  you want to be wanted. And look, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I totally know how that feels. The truth is, everyone knows how that feels because everyone wants to be wanted. That’s not wrong, it’s not a sin and it’s completely healthy. 

The problem is that some gals think that dating some dude is the only way to feel loved and wanted, so they date the wrong guy just to be dating. Then, some of these gals end up with guys who are unkind, unfaithful and unbelievably harsh. They wind up doing things sexually they never wanted to do. They wind up giving up friendships with other sisters in Christ just because that dude feels threatened. Sometimes these girls even wind up being emotionally and verbally abused or worse because they’ll put up with anything to keep the relationship going. The fact is, a lot of gals get afraid. They’re afraid that if they don’t have this relationship, they will never have another one. They’re afraid that if this guy isn’t in their life, they’ll never feel wanted. 

Do you see what’s happened here? There is a lie that has taken root in this girl’s heart. The lie goes something like this: “Sure this relationship is horrible, but it’s the only thing you deserve. You will never have anything better than this, so you might as well let him treat you like crap and cheat on you and basically use you because that’s all you get. You have to stay with him, otherwise you’ll just be alone and anything is better than that.” 

That right there is why girls put up with the kind of nonsense they do. Thing is, every piece of that is a lie. They are all dirty lies forged in the pit of hell and if you believe any of those things, you need to tell them to go back to hell where they belong. Sister, you were made by God to be His very own princess. You are a treasure and you deserve to be cherished. The King of the Universe who created the Rocky Mountains, the Mediterranean Sea and freaking New Zealand also made you and He thinks you are the most beautiful and special thing He ever made. This guy you’re with is a small, sad, pitiful creature who needs his butt kicked. You don’t have to put up with his junk for one more second. You need to tell him to hit the road, and you don’t ever have to speak to him or text him ever again. It ends today.

You deserve a real man of God who sees you for the miracle you are. You deserve a man who jumps out of bed every morning, put his face on the ground and praises Jesus that he gets to be with a woman of God like you. God has that guy for you. But here’s the thing… even if you had to wait on that guy for a while, anything is better than the hell you’re living in now. Don’t put up with disrespect. You deserve so much more. You’re Jesus’ girl. Don’t settle for less than a guy who loves Jesus as furiously as you do.